what if your man puts something not important in front of his job?

what if your man puts something not important in front of his job?
My boyfriend goes to school from 8 am to 11 am. Then sometimes has to be at work at 11:30 am or 3 pm. And we are in a finacial crisis and he needs to make sure he gets his diploma this year. His teacher said that he has to make 90% and higher on all his work to pass THIS year. The past couple of weeks he will wake up, go to school, go hang out with his mom or dad or bother or just decide to go somewhere out of the county just because they ask him to. And he doesnt have time to study for his tests. And to day at 11:30 am he went out of the county right after school with his mom and brother to go pick up a part for his dads truck he is still out of the county at this minute and he has to be to work at 3:00 pm. and he is going to be late. and giving up hours that we really need. am i exaggerating? should i talk to him about it? or should i just leave it alone?
Singles & Dating - 1 Answers - 2010-02-08 11:54:01

Best Answer
It seems to me like the question is really: why is his family endorsing the irresponsible behavior? Do they not see the value in education and earning money that you do? Something sounds strange here. I hate to put it to you in such a harsh way, but this guy sounds like he's going nowhere fast. Skip ahead in your relationship. Should you two get married and have kids, what happens when he has to pick Junior up from daycare? When you need a night off, is he going to flake on his responsibility then? I'm sure there are wonderful things about him too, but I would seriously evaluate if this guy is someone you can be with for the long term. I think you should talk to him about it, but don't do it in a nagging way where he feels like you're scolding him. Impress upon him how grave of a financial situation you two are in, and that if he doesn't pull his weight, you aren't going to be able to stay together. Obviously, he would rather hang out with his family then go to work (most of us would), but as adults, we have to do lots of stuff, like work, when we would rather be elsewhere. If he can't get on board with that, then you should not shoulder that burden.